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Learning to say NO - Essentialism

It is official I am burnt out. I have for a very long time taken too many activities on just because I felt that they were worth doing to help in the transition towards a sustainable system. But the past few weeks has shown me that my creative spark can destroy me completely and I can fall easily in the Madness of doing more.

What led me to that is learnign to say yes to everything.

I said yes to do so many things to the point I wasted so much time in things that were not really beneficial to me. .My thirst to success by doing more just led me to failure. My thirst to be accepted by others led me to disappoint those individuals as I burnt out. My stress level also rise up to the sky and I burst into despair.

A solution had to be found.

My fist step, to cancel one after the others all my appointments.
My second step, to look for an answer.

I came across to 'Essentialism' by Greg McKeown.

He asked this simple question 'What stop people to breakthrough to the next level?'

From my own perspective, focus for sure and not being able to respond to your own needs by keeping responding to the needs of others.
Responsibility means  being response-able. Being able to respond to call for action.
if you have to many call for action that would possibly lead you to success and you try to respond every single call. Success can become a catalyst for failure.
This is where I am right now. Failure with a big F.

I want to change my mindset. Why not essentialism and more importantly saying NO.

To learn more about Essentialism - Check out those links:
- Greg McKeown Talks at Google - https://youtu.be/sQKrt1-IDaE
- Video Review for Essentialism by Greg McKeown - https://youtu.be/kDKy_O-gmJw

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