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September is always a special month. It is the beginning of the artistic season. In our family, it was always the month when my father would also present a new production. Fo r the first time, In September, this year, I am delivering a show - an exhibition to be exact called Stor ies of Change.  My brother is also opening the season with.a play called Catch! at Le Theatre de La Tempete directed by Clement Poiree and I shall join him in October to watch him. The old man would be proud! So yes, I feel supra connected to him this month at so many different levels. On the 6th September 2018, I wrote an article called  Freedom Time - We heard you .  about a message my father passed to me and my mother in his cloud. The article included my response to his message. He said:  'Why do you stay at home? You and Marie Toto. You have to come out of the house sometimes if you want to start collaborating with people.'' My response in summary was "at home I can be the whole me'...

Cinderella is my favourite Disney Princess Movie of all time.  Why? Despite the trauma of losing both her parents at a young age and being abused by both her stepmother and stepsisters, she remains kind, compassionate and strong completing all her chores with a positive spirit. She finds refuge in fantasy and by dreaming of a better life, she takes great care of those around her who return her favours. She is not even looking for the Prince Charming or for someone to save her, she is waiting for all her dreams to become reality. At the time when she almost lost all hopes after her stepsisters viciously attack her, she materialises a fantasy - the fairy godmother - who washes her tears and make her dream come true: to go to the ball and have a magical experience. At the ball, the prince finds her meandering in the hall and approach her for a dance.  The dance with the Prince gives her an opportunity to dream furthermore about a complete different life made of love and delight....

I am glad we postponed the idea of having a child. I was able to work, study and expand my mind with many different thoughts and thinking, nourish my soul with many different perspectives, engage with many different activities and go through an healing process that will benefit generations. I am now able to have deep conversation with people and this is not limited to nappies, boobs and poops, and the trauma that goes with it.  I am now in the process of bringing my children into this world and oh they are going to be some healthy magical beings who will transform our lives and this world for the better.

What I learnt from watching the 4th season of Ready to Love - know yourself - be clear about what you are looking for - be open to the opportunities that come your way - to love someone, you first need to love yourself, be secured so nothing outside of yourself can sway you away - give space to the other person to grow and flourish - listen properly - be in touch with your emotions so you can better address situations and be present when love is available for grab All the best for all the contestants, I wish you to find love 💘

I lose relationships. It is the beginning of new possibilities for change. I control, manipulate so that only the people who are ready to change stay. I deceive, reject so that only the people who want to stay, stay. I am decisive in the way I deal with others. I always play my parts so they can grow. I love transforming. I allow myself to lose any parts of who I am so a new side of myself may emerge. I know when this happens, it creates havoc in people's lives so they realise that they have to change too. I deliberately choose to be whatever I need to be so I can grow and evolve as well as all the people around me! It is unsafe, risky, naughty. I love it, it makes me so happy, I am meeting everyone's expectations and beyond. I am experiencing deep relationships with people who stay, I am opening new doors to opportunities. Those who underestimate me, better watch out, I will force them to find their path to happiness there.

I fear losing relationships. For those reasons, I can be controlling, manipulating to keep them and/or I can also be deceiving and rejecting people so I do not have to go through the heartache of losing them. It makes me quite indecisive in the way I deal with others. Shall I play along or shall I not? The unfortunate thing is that I also act out of fear with parts of myself. I do not allow myself to evolve because I am scared of what will emerge, I am scared that the real me will create havoc in people lives and make it worse, I am scared of myself. So I choose deliberately to be small, insignificant, ugly, unreliable, poor, untrustworthy, lazy. I do love to be all those things. It is safer for everyone, Yet, weirdly enough, it also makes me unhappy that I am not meeting some of partners expectations. I am losing those relationships, I am closing doors to opportunities. Those who believe that I am so much more than what I chose to be. I create Havoc there. It appears that I am nev...

Sunday afternoon, The diary says that she needs to be at her certain place at a certain time to meet with some people. She is also required to bring something to eat. She jumps into the car and goes to her local store. There she walks straight to the reduced section. In front of her, a man, late 40s, blond hair, broad shoulders. She freezes. She knows that man. She does not know what to do. Say hello. Smile awkwardly. She turns around, grabs the first packet of crisps she can. She is hoping he did not see her. She can hear his voice talking to the cashier. She has a hat on, she s unrecognisable. She walks hastily to the car, gets in. She waits for him to leave. No encounter. We are all saved. Her body could not lie, she is connected to him for life. It was a gentle reminder that love s everywhere to be found

This morning I ask myself whether I could make peace with all those I pushed away. Is it a worthy battle to engage in. Do I still need them in my presence now? My heart tells me that what was done taught me many things. I need to accept the learning and move forward. If the chance is given to me, I will meet the people I rejected again and we will be able to make peace there and then.

When did you first fell in love? What happened? My first love was Jeremy a sweet love until we were shamed in front of the whole class for inappropriate behaviour. We kissed

https://www.utilitarian.org/criticisms.html http://www.webpages.uidaho.edu/jcanders/ethics/outline_of_some_classic_criticis.htm Problem : Consider the following two cases: 1. Elderly Aunt Molly is ill. Nephew Tom visits her and helps her because he loves her. Nephew Bob visits her and helps her because he hopes to be rewarded in her will. Nephew Dave visits her and helps her not because he desires to help but because he believes it is his duty. (Modified Version of case by Bowie and Beauchamp,  Ethical Theory in Business  (Englewood Cliffs: Prentice-Hall, 1979) 16-17. 2. A two-year-old is drowning. Ruth flings caution aside because she desires to save the child and jumps in, but she cannot swim. Thus, she fails to save the child. Sue can swim, but is afraid that the child will pull her under. She does not save the child. The consequences were the same in each case, but the motives of the agents were different. According to utilitarianism, each person's action was of...

An evening like no others with 3 girlfriends talking about life, how we feel etc. Then it goes slightly sour. E. shares the story of her daughter Z. Z has always been a bit weird with low self-esteem. She is quite involved with the feminist movement and has some double standards on what people cannot say (i.e. sexist remarks) and what she can say (i.e. insults). She had recently some issues with her father and brother. She shared with her mum that she felt that her relatives were sexist and she did not feel comfortable around them. E. feels that on one hand her daughter may be mixing some of her past personal issues with her dad and brother with the feminist narrative. On the other hand, she feels remarks that may not be appropriate needs to be confronted. She discussed with her son and husband. The son recognised that he probably went a bit too far. He was upset and words got muddled. The father on his side is on the defensive and try to detract the conversation on another...

Just do it. but please, do not do it prove them wrong or try to gain their approval later down the line.  You may never get it Just do it because it makes you happy. Do not talk about your goals with them, it will make them upset for no reasons. Focus on you ought to do

Year prior to the due date Groom: I want to marry you. Bride: I want to marry you too Parents: You can only marry if you convert. Groom: I will. Bride: He will Parents: We shall see Months prior to the due date He does She is pleased They are pleased yet suspicious of its intentions Two weeks before the wedding The groom gets a piercing Two days before the wedding The groom arrives at the house of the bride's parents to bring the dowry with a piercing in his nose The family horrified do not say a thing but passes the message to the wedding organisers so they can speak to the bride. The bride is tasked to talk to her future husband to not wear the piercing at the wedding. Wedding day The groom arrives at the reception hall with the piercing in his nose.  The lead organisers are boiling inside. They talk to the bride, she is boiling inside.  She has not talked to her husband. The lead organisers take the courage to take him on a s...

There is nothing worse than to compromise your sleep for the sake of relationships. Yet, we do it all the time. Look at the baby crying, the baby snoring, the baby wetting their bed. Look at the phone flashing light, beeping and ringing in the morning light The other, baby child or adult, the other, machine or gadget,  can be a monster in our life. Well, get over it. To live full stop is a compromise to make with I.

Phone addiction is real and can wreck relationships Google - My spouse can't get off of his phone onto google. You will be surprised by the number of hits for that particular sentence. Men and Women are complaining about their spouses spending more time with lovey Iphone, Sexy Samsung and Cheeky Sony than them. So what is the solution to that particular problem? Well, there is no magic pill to end an addiction to a phone. The conversation around phone addiction shall not be about looking for a solution.  It should be about humanity and its relationship with technology and other human beings.  We have to find a consensus on what is the role of technology in our lives and if they are detrimental to our progress, we should question their existence and/or their features. Personally, if technology incites division, isolation, addiction, argument, dispute and possibly hatred, well bin it.

My father is both its state of consciousness and unconsciousness. He has Lewy Body Dementia. He has wisdom though in his cloud. I pay very close attention to what he says before he goes. I had my mother on the phone. She narrated her last encounter with him. He said: ''Why do you stay at home? You and Marle Toto. You have to come out of the house sometimes if you want to start collaborating with people.'' She replied: how do you know that your daughter and I stay at home? He disappeared. As my mum narrated what happened, I heard him. Yes, I enjoy working from home. I can be the whole me. No need to engage in the war of the minds, be dominated by any isms in the form of community cohesion or for some the doctrine of religion,  no need to conform to any vision or listen to the tell-a-vision. Drink and eat to please when you already full of aspirations. Yet, I heard him. It is Freedom time now. Time to free ourselves from the shackles of conventi...

It did not occur to you that you could be possibly abused by the people you love. Scenario 1 you are already in your bubble of low self esteem. something is not good enough, you are the one to blame by your next of kin with inappropriate comments,  you throw a tantrum, they tell you to grow up and you reflect on your behaviour rationalise it all and say you are sorry and that you will do everything to change.  Then it repeats itself until you do all the cleaning, children rearing and for some reasons you are still not good enough. Poor you, you are such a victim. Scenario 2 you are busy doing something for yourself,  someone come into your space and tell you that they need your help, they even manipulate you saying that you'll be able to work on ur stuff later, that they really need you to drop them to see their sick mum or to look after their kids cos they need to go to a party, you want to say no but you say yes because you don't want them to think that you are not...

There are two aspects of man’s existence which are the special province and expression of his sense of life: love and art. I am referring here to romantic love, in the serious meaning of that term — as distinguished from the superficial infatuations of those whose sense of life is devoid of any consistent values, i.e., of any lasting emotions other than fear. Love is a response to values. It is with a person’s sense of life that one falls in love — with that essential sum, that fundamental stand or way of facing existence, which is the essence of a personality. One falls in love with the embodiment of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his widest goals or smallest gestures, which create the  style  of his soul — the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable consciousness. It is one’s own sense of life that acts as the selector, and responds to what it recognizes as one’s own basic values in the person of another. It is not a...

I was born in a family of artists where paintings and theatre plays danced together throughout the night. In my first home, the walls from time to time will display new colours. I always admired art appearing on the walls of our buzzing home. My second home was the theatre. I always love the sight, smell and sound of the rehearsals. My favourite moment in a theatre is when the light goes off and that you know you cannot come out until the play is over. Growing up, I became petrified that my own art will be judged as insignificant compared to my parents. It has taken a lot of time and crafts to have pride in my work and for me to take over my own world. I met mentors along the way who helped me to become what I am today channelling my vulnerabilities towards greater schemes. I am forever grateful. I thank my parents to have open my eyes to opportunities. They have managed with almost none or little education to create a world of their own. A beautiful one. Sometimes, I wish that they w...

Tom and David Kelly asked on Open Ideo how might we inspire young people to cultivate their creative confidence. This was my answer As young children, we are all creative. We draw sing, build, and dream. Life is Easy. All we need is food (or fuel) and a space to express ourself and more significantly time to be with ourself. Yet somewhere along the way, we get lost and make life a little harder for ourself because we think with our head and eyes rather than with our heart .  Maybe we forgot the simple act of  breathing or  The joy of being  playing with our friends and  the sweet sound of laughing,  the meaning of freedom,  closing our eyes and sleeping in the middle of the afternoon with no feeling of guilt I do believe creative confidence develop itself through renunciation of the high perception we have of ourselves in the eyes of others. Renunciation is an expression of creativity. Creativity and innovation is an act of renun...