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Waking up from Manipulation and doing something about it

Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable. Joyce Brothers

The basic tool for the manipulation of reality is the manipulation of words. If you can control the meaning of words, you can control the people who must use the words. Philip K. Dick

It has been an interesting past 6 weeks where I've learnt first hand how it feels to wake up from manipulation. The past week has been the last chapter where  my eyes finally became wide opened on what has gone on in the past few months. I did not want to look at the truth because I wanted to please others, I wanted to feel connected to them but I always ended up feeling betrayed and my tasks at hand going through the windows because I was too busy trying to meet others half way and depleting all my energies in agenda that were not beneficial to me.
I am a nice person. This is who I am. But probably not the cleverest when it comes to recognising toxic individuals. I do remember a time when I left my own country in order to regain some sense of self but I have lost myself again by putting the needs of others first before my own.
Others may feel the same and probably came to the realisation that something odd is happening in their life, not understanding why they feel tired and restless, why they feel that they are not looked after by others and why they have the impression to be betrayed. People do not hurt consciously but they do it unconsciously by being demanding of others and hoping that others will take responsibility for them. Personally, I have taken too much responsibilities to the point where I burnt out. Please do not do the same

Below is a list of articles I've read to just identify the issue and learn to deal effectively with manipulation. I hope it will help:
1) https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201510/14-signs-psychological-and-emotional-manipulation
2) http://theunboundedspirit.com/10-clever-ways-deal-toxic-people/
3) https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201403/how-handle-manipulators
4) http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/dealing-with-manipulative-people.html
5) http://lifeesteem.org/wellness/wellness_manipulation.html


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