Change begins with forgiveness

Forgiveness of self involves a change in how we view ourselves. Instead of feeling a lot of guilt, shame, and anger toward ourselves, we begin to replace those feelings with empathy, compassion, and love toward ourselves. Our view of self begins to shift.

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Time to listen

Sometimes our own perspective on life may get in the way of what we understand when others speaks. Pause, breathe and really listen. You may learn something. if you are too busy with your own thoughts, you will not even realise what was said. You will probably misinterpret some important signal. So what to do, Pause, breathe, ask further questions before sharing an informed answer based on fact and not your own imagination

Ambivalent feelings about staying or leaving

Do you want to stay in one place and be rooted to ground yourself in a specific environment? Do you want to be leaving and go to different places to elevate yourself? Can you do both at the same time? Yes you can do both, do not ever think that where you are is static, the place is constantly changing and it is within the details that you can find new meaning for oneself and if this is not enough, plan time in and go to come back different..

Why help makes the best glue

Published on Thoughful I am five years old. I’m in my bedroom with my coloured pencils and colouring book. Opening the book, I grab a pencil and start colouring. And then, it happens—the thing that always happens to kids my age. I simply cannot stay inside the lines. I am frustrated. It is SO FRUSTRATING! Crying out for my mum to save me from this colouring disaster, she opens the door. “What’s wrong?” “Help!” She sits next to me. She takes a pencil. She shows me how to do it. “Stay calm, take a deep breath, and move the pencil around the edges of the picture, like this,” she explains. I watch her carefully. I follow her instructions. I fail a few times. And then, like magic, I am no longer going outside the lines. I am a colouring genius. And all it took was one word—help. It has taken me a couple of decades, some academic research and a little reminiscing to get to this simple truth… that in a weird way, help is like glue. When something is broken, vexingly incomplete, help is the b...

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