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Comets

 Would your accumulated and complex feelings, fuzzy memories and fantasies that protected you for so long and helped you define yourself as you are, combust when you return and become close to the sun of your life - a past and young love? You are outgassing, releasing the pain and angst, making a wish for a brighter future. Comets by Tamar Shavgulidze Synopsis: Three decades after their separation, Irina and Nana remain mesmerized by memories of earlier days. But when Irina returns to the small community she left—where Nana stayed to start a traditional family—the women must reconcile with the past and their complex feelings.

Focus on what you want to become

And not what you were. In the past month, tears dropped my cheeks almost everyday as I could not contain my sorrow. I am doing my best looking forward and reminding myself that all will be OK, that all my wishes will come true as long as I keep my eyes on the prize and believe that love is there. The tears are part of the process. To be happy, you have to truly feel, you have to truly grieve. Grieve fully you will receive solace. The sun will shine. I kept asking myself why the fairy godmother only appeared when cinderela cried after being abused. The fairy godmother appeared when cinderella finally admitted to herself that she deserved better and she let herself grieve for what was lost so she could get it in a better or another form. 

The 7 Vital Self-Check Heath Program by Jonry Heyce

A good friend and writer, Jonry Heyce, recently published ''The 7 Vital Self-Check Heath Program''and invited me to listen to it on Audible. The author clarifies some key terms such as self-efficacy, self-discipline, self-esteem, self-love and provides examples as to how we sometimes sabotage ourselves to live fulfilling lives and what we need to do, such as practising mindfulness. to always come back to love, care and kindness towards ourselves and others. As the author mentioned and clarified the term self-efficacy, a concept originally proposed by psychologist Albert Bandura. It refers to the belief  in their capacity to execute behaviours necessary to produce specific performance attainments, I could not stop thinking about my doctoral experience and belief in my capacity to complete the programme. Oh my, when your self-esteem is at a bottom of the bucket, that all the parts of you feel under scrutiny and judged by the demons of the past, you fall into the worst of