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The 7 Vital Self-Check Heath Program by Jonry Heyce

A good friend and writer, Jonry Heyce, recently published ''The 7 Vital Self-Check Heath Program''and invited me to listen to it on Audible.

The author clarifies some key terms such as self-efficacy, self-discipline, self-esteem, self-love and provides examples as to how we sometimes sabotage ourselves to live fulfilling lives and what we need to do, such as practising mindfulness. to always come back to love, care and kindness towards ourselves and others.

As the author mentioned and clarified the term self-efficacy, a concept originally proposed by psychologist Albert Bandura. It refers to the belief in their capacity to execute behaviours necessary to produce specific performance attainments, I could not stop thinking about my doctoral experience and belief in my capacity to complete the programme. Oh my, when your self-esteem is at a bottom of the bucket, that all the parts of you feel under scrutiny and judged by the demons of the past, you fall into the worst of habits. I won't tell you what happened there...

It is a responsibility to practise mindfulness, to come back to love and appreciation, to be compassionate towards oneself, stay present, true to oneself and others. It demands sacrifices. You have to kill the person who finds it easier to stop believing in themselves, blame their situation on others and circumstances and ask to be cared for, saved as if they were vulnerable.

It takes maturity, foresight and constant practice. A Happy, Successful Life is a Choice - a choice to believe in our capacity to create it and execute all the behaviours that will attain it.






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