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What to do when someone avoid you? write them a blogpost

I have been asking myself this question a number of times and I still cannot answer it, so I decided to write a blog post.

You see I have some dreams through my head on which I try to work on everyday. Each dream gets attention. I have to, if not they will never become reality. Sometimes, I meet people who hop along and we agree together to make one of those a shared reality.

I keep working on it everyday without fail.

I send an email to my dream sharers, two, three, give them a call, once, twice.
Some do not answer.
I think that they are busy and they will.
They probably have too many dreams to attend to.
Maybe they are ill.
There is something that they do not agree with but they do not have the skills to express their concerns to me and they are still figuring it out.
It is fine.
As long as they tell me

After some time with no answer, I get slightly annoyed. They are avoiding me and I cannot do anything about it.
It makes me feel like an idiot.
It is hurful.
It is unnecessary.

It should not be hard to just honestly tell me that 'sorry I am not interested to make this dream reality anymore' or 'sorry I am too busy at the moment, I'd rather work on it later' or 'I took a note of what you send, I'll come back to you soon'.
Soon means next week by the way, not in 6 months.

I guess it is difficult to do for some people. They have too many conflicting agenda to deal with, they are still wondering who they want to be.

I wish they could tell me instead of making me feel like I am stupid to have dreams and wanting to make them reality.

I deal well with rejection when it is respectful and honest.

Reject me please do it fast and quick, do not drag it.

Because, If we agreed to work together, I'll communicate progress and if I do not receive feedback, I'll stall. It give me more worries and questions to deal with which are a waste of time.

So what to do when someone avoid you?
I am still wondering. So this is what I decided to do:

First send them this post and tell them that they are still welcome to talk to me when they are ready.

second since I cannot control what happen outside of myself, force someone to answer to me if they do not want to, I'll try o remember that the only person I can control is myself, I'd keep working on the tasks I have to do, I can make my dream reality on my own, it will be slower but not impossible. .

;)

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