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Noticing emotional abuse and doing something about it

It did not occur to you that you could be possibly abused by the people you love.

Scenario 1 you are already in your bubble of low self esteem. something is not good enough, you are the one to blame by your next of kin with inappropriate comments,  you throw a tantrum, they tell you to grow up and you reflect on your behaviour rationalise it all and say you are sorry and that you will do everything to change.  Then it repeats itself until you do all the cleaning, children rearing and for some reasons you are still not good enough. Poor you, you are such a victim.

Scenario 2 you are busy doing something for yourself,  someone come into your space and tell you that they need your help, they even manipulate you saying that you'll be able to work on ur stuff later, that they really need you to drop them to see their sick mum or to look after their kids cos they need to go to a party, you want to say no but you say yes because you don't want them to think that you are not a nice person. When your turn comes to ask for help, no one is there and you wonder I helped everyone but no one cares for me and my problems and you start blaming them to not being nice to you. Poor you, you are a victim.

Just stop it, happiness cannot be reach by being nice all the time, you have to be angry sometimes to confront irrespectuous and blood sucking relationships. Set your boundaries and experience joyfullness a once you've reached your goals.

Be a badass and ensure no one get in a way of your greater purpose.
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